I always ask my students “Where is the music.” Usually, they reply, “It’s in the notes.”
But that is not where the music is. It’s in the space between the notes, in the silence – the pause that allows one note to float across the sea of time to the land of the next note.
Harmony is the inner cadence of contentment we feel when the melody of life is in tune. ~ Sarah Ban Breathnach, Simple Abundance (1995).
Ever since I was a child, I’ve loved solitude. Yes, I liked playing with other children but, somehow, the hours I spent alone listening to music on my Dad’s huge, ebony Grundig stereo held more joy and fascination for me. I was a calm child, though you wouldn’t believe it if you knew me well, today, when I tend to fly off the handle at every whim. I’m outraged by people, their barking dogs, screeching children, careless driving and outright unconsciousness about the next person. Politics makes me laugh, cynically, while the games rich men play on the less rich make me outraged.
But I still spend most of my days alone, writing, photoshopping images and graphics, building a presence in cyberspace, doing homework, meditating, daydreaming while watching the sun play on the lake, listening to music – mine and others – and just enjoying my sixties.
Youth is truly not the time to reflect. It cannot be. You must have lived some years to have something real to reflect upon. When people ask me, “Wouldn’t you like to be 25, again?” I say, “Heck NO!”
I love being 60+. It’s the time when you can say “NO!” to almost anything or anyone you want. It’s so liberating. When we were three, it was our favorite word to say. So, it only stands to reason that 57 years later, we would revert back to this favorite of words.
What does “NO” really mean?
Well, consider the alternative. “Yes” means
“I will do what I have to do.”
“I will do what you want me to do.”
While “NO” means, “I definitely have a choice in the matter and I choose not to cooperate simply because I can.”
For decades, I believed that saying “NO” meant that I would isolate myself from other people or fail at what I was attempting to do. Today, I understand that the word simply frees me up from being obligated to doing anything I simply do not want to do. It’s a time-saver, money-saver, gas-saver, energy-saver. Who would have thought that two letters “N” and “O” could combine to make such a pleasant word. And it’s the same in almost every language! So, very seldom misunderstood.
What will you say “NO” to today?
This past weekend, I fulfilled the dream of having an all-female ensemble to present Amazing Musicwomen. We performed at the South Florida Jazz Summit and were very well received. More than that, each of us truly enjoyed the experience and will get to do it again on February 5th at The Arts Garage in Delray Beach.
Life in tune is good! ~ Diva JC