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Write Your Life

Today, in response to a blog on The Loneliness of the SpinsterI posted the following:

In defense of antiquated terms, I wrote this blog in April 2016: https://divineconnectionchurch.wordpress.com/2014/04

1jc-united-state-of-women-profile-pledgeI am a soon-to-be 69-year-old mother of two, grandmother of five, and great grandmother of three, who is just completing a doctorate in business administration/marketing with the plan of being a professor for the duration of my life, after having toured 19 countries as a jazz vocalist. In addition, I am divorced four times over. My motto was and still is “You cheat. You hit. I’m gone.”

Moreover, I am a woman of color surrounded by a community of people of color who would be destitute if it were not for their good government job, which may come to a screeching halt in light of the plans of the President-elect. I have lived in singular bliss since 2000, and loneliness has only reared its evil head on a very few occasions. I cherish silence and solitude which afford me time to hear myself think.

Hannah, I do believe that people in loveless relationships are far lonelier than I have been in my singular state. Of course, I get to talk to my children regularly. However, they reside in other states and seeing them is not a regular occurrence. All of that being revealed, I am a crone, a mid-life spinster-of-sorts who has fashioned my future through education. As I told one of my Speech Communications students just last week, “Always give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Never let what others think you should do with your life prevail over your own wishes for you.”

Marriage and parenthood are overrated, in my opinion, especially bad marriages that subsist for the benefit of children who will leave the nest and generally leave mother to care for a dominant father. That is not the scenario for all marriages. However, it is a very lonely scenario. My advice to young women who have not fallen into the love-and-marriage cipher is to live the best life that you can for YOU! Period.

Your destiny is written by your higher self. Your soul records every single wish and desire and, if living single is your choice, no one should be able to dictate anything different to you. Regarding the glass ceiling for single, queer women (including those of color), the option of forming your own company to provide a product or service is always there, whether you continue to teach or not.

Think about forming a non-profit corporation to support women in their careers based upon the complaints you lay out in your essay. You may find a new path to tread that can bring light to hundreds, if not thousands of women around the world!

See more at: https://chroniclevitae.com/news/1609-the-loneliness-of-the-spinster?cid=VTEVPMSED1#sthash.owNoxosd.dpuf

Hear my take on Writing Your Life at this site: http://fyicomminc.com/books/jc-books.htm#Write

Professor Joan Cartwright

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Dream – Keep your dream close to your heart and your mind will know the answer. While your soul plays the chords, your imagination can be the dancer! ~ Diva JC

Since 1983, I’ve been building dream boards with destinations I wanted to visit.  I began touring Europe in 1990 and visited most countries on my board except Ireland, Scotland, Egypt and India.

Presently, my dream is to develop multiple streams of income with rapid flow as I complete my PhD in Business Marketing, build my www.fyitravel.biz and continue to recruit members into www.wijsf.org to promote women musicians, globally.  My goal is to find like minded people, who are interested in fulfilling their dreams and willing to do what it takes to do that.

Education – Now, in my fifth year of doctoral studies at Northcentral University, I see the light at the end of the tunnel. My projected completion date is January 2016. The next step is to travel to Fiuggi, Italy, where I will do research at Fondazione Adkins-Chiti: Donne in Musica on the economic status of women musicians.

Opportunity – There are several streams of income I have at my disposal including:

The object is to get ALL of these opportunities flowing rapidly!

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